How Our Personal Matchmaking Works
The first step in our process involves understanding each client’s unique needs and circumstances. Once we have had a chance to review it, we will reach out with a tailored set of additional questions that will help us get to know you better, and help us understand if SingleBlackDating might be the right fit for you. At that point, we may then invite you to meet with us for an initial one-on-one meet and greet where you can get to know the SingleBlackDating team in person, and we can really get a sense of what you want in your next serious relationship.
We like to be upfront about the fact that there is a fee for this initial meeting. This meeting can often take up to 90 minutes, and during that period you’ll have the undivided attention of SingleBlackDating so the fee is strictly to cover her professional time. We would love to be able to offer complimentary screenings but, as a boutique firm, our time is limited, and we find that charging a nominal early fee helps us screen out those who aren’t truly serious about this process. Financially, it also allows us to carve out the time to focus solely on our conversation, and our prospective clients tend to appreciate that extra attention.
During this time we’ll ask you a lot of very specific questions that cover topics ranging from religions to ethnicities to occupations to your preference, and we’ll work together to build an archetype of the sort of partner who might be a great fit for you at this point in your life. Some of our questions will seem very superficial, some of them will seem very personal, and some of them will likely seem totally insane, but they all have a purpose. At this point we’ll also talk about the possible SingleBlackDating membership levels that might make sense for you, and how best to proceed.
And then we’ll actually ask you to take a few days to think about it. All of it. Does this feel right for you? Is this the right time in your life to pursue it? Are we the right team? Does the membership we proposed make the most sense? Are there maybe some things you forgot to mention? Or would like to find? Or don’t matter as much as you thought they might? Are you ready to take the next step?
Once we all agree that it makes sense to work together, and decide how we’d like to do that, we’ll meet again. We’ll refine your list of wants and wishes even further, and we’ll present you with our understanding of the criteria that are most important to you in this search. Once we all clearly have your type and objectives crystallized, we move forward with our search so that you can move forward with the rest of your life!
Matches will be presented to you, and whenever both halves of the match are interested in meeting, phone numbers are exchanged. After each date you’ll have the opportunity to check in with your matchmaker about how it went, and whether or not your match fit your “perfect partner” criteria.
People often assume that matchmaking is about arranging marriages; this really isn’t true. For some people, marriage is definitely the next step in their dating lives, but for many of our clients this process is simply about learning how to move forward. At SingleBlackDating, matchmaking is about helping you break your dating inertia. Our goal is to simply help you move forward and get into the serious, lasting relationship you deserve. If you’re single and don’t want to be, it’s likely that at least one of the following things applies to you:
* you’ve never been serious about being in a relationship before
* you’ve consistently dated the wrong type of person… and you know it
* your life lacks the balance required to feed a romance…you work too much
* you attract the wrong types into your life due to your success
* you seem to be the ‘friend’ and never the one viewed as marriage potential
* you’ve never developed the skills necessary to woo the opposite sex
* you don’t know how to date after a divorce/long term relationship
* you are reluctant to trust someone again after an infidelity/betrayal
One of the great advantages of working with a matchmaker is that we have the ability to help avoid the triggers and land mines of your past relationships when providing you with new introductions. We can best position you for success by pairing you with others who understand – or even share – your particular dating difficulties. Need someone who isn’t threatened by your outgoing nature? Want someone else who has been married before and “gets it?” Or maybe you’re also looking for someone else who’d like to do everything with someone for the first time? Maybe you need a bit more reassurance than most people? Maybe you’d benefit from being with someone who doesn’t mind that you don’t know how to flirt? We can actually help with all of that. In fact, it’s part of our job.
Your privacy matters and we take it seriously. Only SingleBlackDating employees have access to your information and your consent is needed before sharing personal contact information with a potential match. From your first consultation to your happily ever after, our services are 100% confidential.